"I have a mother that does that. It's so frustrating!!!! I've tried different things over the years. What seems to work best is to give her a taste of her own medicine. Come up with rediculous, easy to solve problems and get worked up about it - then don't let her help! And do it (quoting things she just said) a minute after she flys off the handle. For instance: "DAMMIT! MY SHOE IS UNTIED! I HATE THAT! THESE DAMN SHOES! THEY DON'T RESPECT ME! I SHOULD JUST THROW THE DAMN THINGS OUT, BUT I'M SO ATTATCHED! I'M SICK OF THIS SHE-IT" "

answered by Anonymous

"A MUZZLE WORKS IN THIS SITUATION..."

answered by whatrulooknat

" The only problems you can fix are plumbing, hanging stuff, mechanical items(maybe), etc. You can not fix problems for other people. PERIOD. You are kidding yourself if you think you can. For instance, like me telling you...that you can't fix other peoples problems. I can give advice because of having been in a similar situation; BUT I CAN'T FIX IT...YOU AREN'T ME. She isn't you. How you would handle it...or anyone else for that matter...is totally different. This is what makes us human. Just listen...and if asked....Say the following: I make this problem go away, only you can. Then ask, "I guess a blow-job is out of the question?" That'll shut her up...."

answered by Anonymous

"i think your gf sounds selfish and now she is moving away!!!!!! i dont know if she is on the same level as you are when it comes to reality of how grown up relationsahips work. email me when you get over her rahpookathryn@yahoo.com"

answered by Anonymous

"Honestly, she probably doesn't want you to fix it or help her fix it...she just wants to be miserable. If you want to invest in her, then it is going to take a lot of time and effort to undo her bad habits. If she is not 'the one', move on because her bitching is just going to make you unhappy and drag you down to her level of misery."

answered by Hal74

"maybe she's just a "bitcher" some people get caught up and can't stop...maybe you should be straight with her and tell her she complains too much- but in a nice way of course"

answered by moonkist

"Well that is crazy, I would always want help from my boyfriend!! I have the opposite problem from you....I WANT my boyfriend to give me advice, and all he does is listen, with no responce....actually....he's probably not even listening!!!"

answered by alo706

"Eh try the "those problems are ridiculous" approach and see what happens. Don't kill puppies. That's bad."

answered by Caithness

"just listen to her and shut up"

answered by jgarts

"Here's the thing. The real issue is not the problem she's talking about. The problem she's talking about is not what she is actually venting about. I know it's confusing, because that's what it sounds like but the truth is...When your girlfriend is talking to you about a problem she had during her day, she's not actually upset about the problem. She's upset about the fact that she has to deal with the problem. Does the difference there make sense? Instead of offering something to fix the problem, start by supporting her(ie, you're so right, what an ass), and telling her how you know she can handle it because she's so awesome, then try offering something to take her mind off of it. Like a back rub, or making dinner together, or whatever it is the two of you do to relax together. Remember, when venting about her day, her problem is not the problem she's complaining about, her problem is that she has to deal with it. Help make her feel capable of doing it."

answered by GamerDarling