"outstanding and so very true! you are so fuckin' hot also!"

answered by Anonymous

"Hey, I'm a gay man in my 30's and I'm learning to date for the first time in my life. Most of my straight friends had already been dating for years. I never learned the "do's and don'ts" of courting and now I am learning the hard way, i.e. not knowing when I overstep boundaries or invade someone else's personal space. By then I've upset them and it's too late. My neighbor is still in the closet and he learned everything about gay life JUST by watching gay porn so he is constantly saying inappropriate comments to me and my friends when we're talking. It's about experience I guess, or lack thereof in my case. Of course your date could be just a sex freak too- to each their own. Oops, I did it again."

answered by BearAficionado

"Yes, you should not be shocked that there are gay guys(or str8 guys) that don't see a first date as a boundary. The assumption is well you went out with me so thee must be some attraction so exactly when should that be acted upon?"

answered by Odan-Urr

" Actually, I've always managed to make what I intend to on a date very clear. Couple things, if either of you live by yourself, don't go back to his/her apartment. Second, when they bring up something like your 'measurements' or any kind of sexual preference, rather than just playing it off, be honest. Look them in the eye and tell them, you know, I really don't feel that's appropriate conversation for a first date. I'm gay, but I'm still conservative when it comes to that stuff, and I don't feel that going on a date gives you a right to know, if things go well, maybe you'll find out first hand, but don't get more than your hopes up. It's hard to be that honest at first. But it prevents you from getting into something you aren't interested in. Also, don't ever feel indebted because someone has paid. They paid because they liked you and wanted the time with you. You are giving your time, you deserve a say in how it is spent. I haven't really had any 'funny' situations like that...I guess being up front about what I do(n't) want has worked to prevent that. "

answered by GamerDarling

"Yes, actually, you could have not gone back to his apartment. But I agree that the idea of an innocent first date is an adorable, albeit lost, concept today. Boo. As for funny situations, my first kiss with my ex occured on a friend's sofa when we were unable to drive home. He actually thought we would have sex right there only five feet away from my friend's bedroom. Pshaw."

answered by LucilleBluth